The Honor Blog
Today is: Apr 10, 2020
Post From: Jul 29, 2019
When we go to Sunday Mass, my family sits in an area located near what is often called the 'cry room' or the 'mother's room'. (Some people look at the latter term as sexist, but I don't.) We sit there because, for a very long time, we had young children, and we wanted to be able to get into the room quickly if our children became disruptive. We continue to sit in that area mostly out of habit, but also because we still like young children - I like listening to the noises they make, watching what they do.
I actually mean that literally. In fact, my children make fun of me, because when I hear a little person fussing, it mostly makes me laugh. Really - we are talking about strong families, so these young people have two parents dancing attendance on them, yet they dissolve into tears as though their lives are so tragic . . . it just makes me laugh.
At the risk of puffing myself up, I do think that helps those young families to see someone smile at them. They are struggling, and you can see the stress on their faces. They want their children to behave properly, but children just do not - it seems (and may really be) as though they amplify their antics in response to the pressure their parents are feeling. So I think it helps them to know that some of the people around them are not upset by the noise.
As an interesting twist, though, I also want to point out that it is important that parents be engaged in trying to reduce the noise. That sounds a little contradictory, I know. If the noise from young people doesn't bother me, you might think I would be fine with parents just ignoring that sort of thing.
However, it is important to recognize that what is cute in young children is not cute in older children, let alone adults. It is important that parents be working to discipline their children, because that is what helps them to develop and mature.
So it is interesting - we like children, and we expect noise and a certain amount of bad behavior. My family and I would be glad if parents did not feel bad about that sort of thing. However, it is important that the parents be working to correct that behavior, as well. There is a balance, there - we love children and absolutely forgive (even indulge, a little) some kid noise and misbehavior. But the parents of those kids also have a duty to work on those things, to help their kids grow out of the behavior we don't mind.