About the Honor Blog

This blog has been created for the purpose of exploring controversial moral problems, using the concepts explored in The Book of Honor as a foundation. Since it seeks to tackle difficult problems, readers should approach it with serious minds and should expect to have their prejudices challenged. However, an element which is central to The Book of Honor is that there are things upon which all normal humans will agree. This blog seeks out those things - it focuses on areas of agreement, rather than disagreement, so that the discussion can remain positive even in the face of serious disagreements.

The Gratiae

One of the most important conclusions reached in The Book of Honor is that acting in a good and moral way means giving value to other persons. The things which represent that value are called the gratiae, and in The Book of Honor, we learn there are three of those things:
Liberty, and

Good actions are those which support human life, which recognize the freedom and dignity of other persons. Immoral, evil actions are those which deprive persons of their lives, deny them their freedom, and/or destroy their dignity.

The Virtues

The purpose of The Book of Honor is to establish a code of conduct, a set of factors which will guide persons toward honorable behavior. Those factors are summarized in the form of seven Virtues:
Hope, and

These Virtues are used to guide honorable behavior; a person who considers and applies the Virtues when making decisions, when taking action, will serve the gratiae - and act in a good, moral way.

About the Author

Hopefully most of your questions about me are answered by the About page. However, within the context of this blog, I think it also is important for me to point out that:

Inevitably, controversial subjects will touch upon the political arena. There is no way to remove all bias from a discussion - so I believe the best thing I can do is to let you know that I am Catholic, and inclined toward conservatism.

Previous Posts

Mar 25, 2020: Screen Time in Lockdown

Jan 17, 2020: Responding to Difficulties

Dec 18, 2019: The Dangers of Mixing Science and Religion

Oct 6, 2019: Seeking Civil Discourse

Aug 11, 2019: The Premise of the Movie The Hunt Is Appalling

Jul 29, 2019: Noisy Churches

Feb 11, 2019: Dads and Daughters

Dec 19, 2018: The Coarsening of the Public Discourse

Sep 5, 2018: The Catholic Scandal Revisited

Aug 22, 2018: This Month's Catholic Scandal

May 28, 2018: The Immorality of Virtue Signalling

May 1, 2018: Bill Cosby In The News

Mar 4, 2018: Loyalty

Feb 6, 2018: Omelas In Real Life

Jan 7, 2018: The Honor of Science

Nov 24, 2017: Welcome to the Honor Blog!

The Honor Blog

Today is: Apr 10, 2020
Post From: Jul 29, 2019

Noisy Churches

When we go to Sunday Mass, my family sits in an area located near what is often called the 'cry room' or the 'mother's room'. (Some people look at the latter term as sexist, but I don't.) We sit there because, for a very long time, we had young children, and we wanted to be able to get into the room quickly if our children became disruptive. We continue to sit in that area mostly out of habit, but also because we still like young children - I like listening to the noises they make, watching what they do.

I actually mean that literally. In fact, my children make fun of me, because when I hear a little person fussing, it mostly makes me laugh. Really - we are talking about strong families, so these young people have two parents dancing attendance on them, yet they dissolve into tears as though their lives are so tragic . . . it just makes me laugh.

At the risk of puffing myself up, I do think that helps those young families to see someone smile at them. They are struggling, and you can see the stress on their faces. They want their children to behave properly, but children just do not - it seems (and may really be) as though they amplify their antics in response to the pressure their parents are feeling. So I think it helps them to know that some of the people around them are not upset by the noise.

As an interesting twist, though, I also want to point out that it is important that parents be engaged in trying to reduce the noise. That sounds a little contradictory, I know. If the noise from young people doesn't bother me, you might think I would be fine with parents just ignoring that sort of thing.

However, it is important to recognize that what is cute in young children is not cute in older children, let alone adults. It is important that parents be working to discipline their children, because that is what helps them to develop and mature.

So it is interesting - we like children, and we expect noise and a certain amount of bad behavior. My family and I would be glad if parents did not feel bad about that sort of thing. However, it is important that the parents be working to correct that behavior, as well. There is a balance, there - we love children and absolutely forgive (even indulge, a little) some kid noise and misbehavior. But the parents of those kids also have a duty to work on those things, to help their kids grow out of the behavior we don't mind.